Change of perspective
Kid 1- 15 minutes late to school after refusing much needed meds and farting me out of his room
Kid 2- chose to read a book instead of doing breakfast and packing snacks for school
Kid 3- tantrum after tantrum calling me names and hitting me. Demanding tea, followed by hot chocolate milk, followed by coffee and refusing to go to school.
Me- wiped out and day has not at begun. House is a wreck. Cat threw up on the couch..
Any parenting tips i missed?
Now see what happens in just a few hours!
In an attempt to be fair and honest I decided to rewrite my morning more authentically. Many times we all have voices inside telling us how pathetic we really are, when that’s not true at all.
Kid 1-This morning I tried to wake a tired kid that took benadryll because he’s having an allergic skin reaction. He could not get out of bed. I also scheduled him an appointment at the doctor at an inconvenient time and have to bring an overtired 3 year old with.
Kid 2- just got some brand new Geronimo stiltons… and mommy’s voice is no challenge with that. I managed to hold back and not fix him breakfast and snacks because i know he needs to learn the skills. He did managed to make himself breakfast and pack snacks in the nick of time.
Kid 3- Has very high emotional needs that no single person could ever meet. I did make him tea, followed by chocolate milk and then coffee. After he apologized for smacking and calling me stupid poopyhead 20 times I made him his favorite breakfast that only i can make. Half a plain bagel half spread with chocolate spread, half spread with cream cheese and sprinkled with chocolate chips. I then packed him an as nutritious lunch as possible and cracked many pistachios (like i do daily with a mommy’s love and patience)
He actually asked to get dressed, instead of me taking him to school with his PJ’s like some other days. I took him to school with a full mani/pedi that i put on him last night because he allowed me to cut his nails (severe sensory issue kid) I even painted them alternating blue and purple on every little finger and toe like he asked. No embarrassment for me!
Despite this I managed to eat breakfast, drink tea with honey, remembered to take my ginko, thyroid meds and vitamin D.
I Prayed and said tehillim for about 15 minutes so that I can get more clarity with the challenges in my life.
After all this, I went to the gym, jogged/walked 1.3 miles and worked out despite the fact that i feel a bit sick
I came home, did 2 loads of laundry, washed the dishes, swept the floor, washed the kitchen floor, picked up all yesterdays mess (that happened because i went to work)
the 10 puzzles that came tumbling down.. because no one else will do it.
I took out the trash, stripped and washed the couch cushions and am about to meet with my sons ABA therapist so i can be an even better mom to him.
This is not a boast post, but I wanted to give you all the time to rewrite your day more honestly when you beat yourself up. Go ahead share yours with me.