No apple pies from new neighbor
Almost a year ago we moved to our new house. The move was very difficult for me for many reasons, but the excitement of a new house and new neighbors helped us get through it. Our neighbors were really amazing. They brought over cakes, kugel, brownies and cookies and we felt like royalty. All were welcoming except the one that lived closest to us… we never even received a “welcome to the ‘hood wave or smile.” After moving away from the people who could be awarded “world’s worst neighbor award” (I pulled 2 restraining orders against them 🙂 ) I was disappointed that the “new” neighbor practically ignored us. I tried to do the “judge favorably” thing but it was hard. A few months later a friend casually mentioned to me that the “unwelcoming” new neighbor actually had someone terminally ill at home. I was filled with shame that I had thought unkind thoughts about them. I went over to visit the new neighbor and asked if there was anything I could do for her. She was super sweet and warm. YesterdayI went to make a shiva call to their house. My sweet neighbor had passed away. I wish I had a chance to get to know her better.
We are required by the Torah to “judge other people favorably.” If there is someone in our lives who ignores us, hurts us or does not treat us well we are obligated to try think of a way to judge them favorably. Please find someone in your life causing you pain and in your mind judge them favorably as a merit for the soul of sarah sorena bat asher