After a rough day of really feeling broken, a friend sent me the most unbelievable clip. It described the Japanese art form of Kintsugi. When a beautiful dish breaks in Japan, people do not throw it out. They save the pieces, stick them back together and then seal all the cracks with gold. The new dish looks even more beautiful than the original. This is only because it went through the trauma of being broken, but after being put together with love it becomes more beautiful because of the golden repair.
This is so true for humans. Many times we are hurt, disappointed, face setbacks and are broken into many pieces. When we take the ugly broken pieces and put them back together and fill the gaps with gold, we become even more beautiful than had we not been broken in the first place. I think through healing, growth, finding meaning from our pain and by giving to others by sharing what we learned from the experience we are able to line all of our broken cracks with gold.
I decided that I wanted to try out Kintsugi. I went out and bought a dish, wrapped it in a cloth and smashed it with a hammer. I painstakingly reassembled what I had broken and used an epoxy to fuse the pieces together. Then it was magic time, I dipped my brush into the gold paint and filled in all the cracks… the result was a masterpiece.
The experience was very meaningful to me, it infused meaning into my pain and made me cry and heal. I learned so much about supporting the broken pieces while they set by cupping them gently and consistently, about applying just the right amount of pressure to the fused pieces and holding it for just the right amount of time till it stuck. I learned the hard way to clean up the extra epoxy immediately before it fully dried. When filling the gold I noticed if I poured some in the crack gently, it would sometimes fill up the grooves itself by just angling the bowl down. Some gaps needed more epoxy and the missing shards could not be put back. On those particular gaps more gold was used and they were even more brilliant.
Take the opportunity to grow from your brokenness, the results are even more beautiful than had you never gone through your challenges.
I’ve copied links below if you want to try this yourself
Gold paint: http://a.co/bzFG6RD
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